The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament. They describe conquest, war, hunger, and death respectively. We use this metaphor to describe communication styles that, according to our research, can predict the end of a relationship. Criticism The first horseman is criticism. Criticizing your partner is…
Do you want to create a richer connection with your partner? To have those conversations that are intimate and meaningful? Are you shutting down opportunities for a deeper relationship with someone you love by the way you talk with them? Wait, I’m sorry. Let me try those questions again. How do you connect better with…
Frequently criticizing your partner or being criticized by them can create a lot of tension in your relationship. It can make you feel like you’re constantly under attack or as though nothing you do is good enough. A person being constantly criticized is likely to find it hurtful and demoralizing and may grow to resent…
Feeling like you aren’t getting what you want in bed and being unable to ask for it can be frustrating and upsetting. Sex can be a really a tricky topic. We may feel we don’t know how to express ourselves to our partner. Or we may feel confused or embarrassed about why things aren’t ‘working’.…
Second marriages It can be easy to assume that the second marriage will be easier than the first. After all, practice makes perfect, right? And while this can be true in lots of ways, remarrying can come with its own range of complications and concerns. Problems in second marriages – reliving the past One of…
Women are more than twice as likely as men to lack interest in sex when living with a partner, a study of British sexual attitudes suggests. It found that while men and women lost passion with age, women were often left cold by longer relationships. Overall, poor health and a lack of emotional closeness affected…
It may be a cliché, but the workplace is one of the most common places for affairs to start. How do work affairs start? When people spend lots of time together, they have the chance to really get to know each other. Work affairs often start off slowly. Working together in stressful situations can mean…
Love in the time of Tinder: why you can’t blame technology for a rise in affairs. CEO of Relate, Chris Sherwood, discusses on ‘Wired’ why our dependency on technology is blurring the boundaries between digital and non-digital relationships:- “Technology has revolutionized our relationships, changing how we find, organize and even finish them. As a 36-year-old…
5 communication tips to try with your partner It’s no great secret that communication is an important part of any relationship. What’s less understood is how to be a good communicator and just how beneficial building good communication habits into your relationship can be. And while there’s no single, simple solution for making this happen,…
Why communication isn’t always the most important thing in a relationship There is a popular belief that ‘communication’ is the most important thing in a relationship. When couples come to counseling they often say their problem is with ‘communication’. And the thing they want to fix about their relationship is their ‘communication’. And if only…
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