Talking about money with your partner can be really tricky. People often have very different attitudes when it comes to finances. You might be very careful with your cash while your partner may be a bit of a spendthrift. And then there are all the decisions to be made about setting up joint accounts. It’s…
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Moving in with your partner can be a great way of expressing your commitment to one another, but it comes with its own set of challenges too. Some people suddenly find themselves feeling a little suffocated by all the time they’re spending with their other half. Some get frustrated about things like finances or…
‘Holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.’ When you’re feeling disappointed, angry or betrayed, the idea of forgiving someone can feel a little bit like giving in – as if, by letting go of your resentment, you’re allowing them to ‘get away with it’. It can be…
Stuck in a rut Changes People don’t stay the same and neither do relationships. One of the things that couples cite over and over again is how their sex life changes. In the early years sex is often urgent and exciting. Many couples will grab every opportunity they can to make love and sex…
One of the most common objectives couples share when they come to me for counseling is to improve their communication. When communication breaks down it can feel frustrating and painful. I have noticed at these times it’s mostly the ‘feeling heard’ part of communication that is going wrong. Over time this can become really destructive to your relationship, so…
Magic five Award winning marital therapist, researcher and author Dr John Gottman made a key observation of couples who stayed together – that they have a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions in their relationships. A positive interaction might be a thoughtful action, asking questions, showing empathy, a kind word, a hug, a gift, a shared…
A post taken from Relate.org.uk blog….. It’s all too easy to pick up negative communication habits when it comes to relationships. Who can say they’ve never raised their voice in an argument? Or unfairly accused their partner of something? Or even refused to engage in a discussion at all? The thing is, if we’re not…
There are things people believe about relationships that are simply not true and don’t help us to have healthy happy relationships. I call these relationship myths. In this post, I’m going to be ‘busting’ the top 5 relationship myths that I regularly hear couples bring into the counseling room. 1. ‘Relationships should be easy’ or…
Coping with a new baby Making the change from being a couple to being parents isn’t always easy. It can be difficult to find time for yourselves, your sex life can change, you have to juggle the commitments of work and family and find a way of agreeing on how to bring up the children.…
How do I move on after divorce? The end of a relationship is always a difficult time. No matter who ended it or when, the future can look bleak and frightening. But life does can continue and many thousands of people go to have happy and fulfilling lives after divorce. There are many things you’ll…
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